• Coach Dee

Four Myths About Building Self-Confidence

People who have self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving what they want in life, or dealing with any situation that they’re face with. They have an aura of self-confidence and self-assurance, that is apparent to others. People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.

In contrast, there are many people who are reasonably talented, but who lack self-confidence. These people may have fallen victim to several myths that surround self-confidence. Lets review what these myths are. When you hear one that you’ve been struggling with, it’s probably time to lay it to rest and claim your right to high confidence and self esteem.

1. One of the foremost myths about self-confidence is that people are born with it. It is a quality that cannot be acquired. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Self-confidence, like other skills, can be built. What you need is right guidance and a belief in yourself.

2. There are others who blame their low self-confidence to their lack of good looks, and poor upbringing. They don't realize that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks. It is a reflection of one's inner self love and trust. The only way they can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves. In fact, good looks wealth does not equal confidence. There are scores of Hollywood A listers who have run into trouble because of their lack of self confidence.

3. Another myth is that self-confidence is directly proportional to the recognition and praise that an individual gets in his or her life; the ones who are not so lucky wallow in self-pity. Once again, there is little doubt that recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost your self-confidence.

But you can't simply depend on the praise lavished by others. You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you are self-confident. The same applies to those who are not successful. They, too, can earn praise if they work hard and win people's respect. Such people should look at children. In the beginning children believe in themselves, enough to try new things like, walk, sing out loud, day any way they want, draw, wear fun clothing.

4. Another myth is that only self-confident people can afford to take risks. This again is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can't do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures.

In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don't get it they end up losing themselves. self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not dependent upon a person's beauty or looks. It flows from a person's self-belief, and this belief can be developed.

Its time to debunk myths that self- confidence cannot be developed. Work at your skills, hone your craft, practice, take action, fail and try again. Tell yourself that you can do it. stepout side of your comfort zone and be ok not knowing. Ask for help and have fun at life. When you do these things, you’re confidence will grow.

Alright success builder. Ready to let go of the myths that have been holding you back?

Have a great day and remember, I believe you are capable of great things. Lets build success together.

Coach Dee

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