Confidence – You know it when you see it.
As the lady walks into the room to give her presentation, everyone nods their head in approval as she exudes a cool, calm assurance that everything’s under control. There’s no describing self-confidence. You know it when you see it!
There are many situations when we feel as if we could do anything, deal with any obstacle, take on any task or job yet at other times, we simply just run out of steam!
The best method to increasing your self-confidence is to work on improving your knowledge and abilities. “Knowledge IS Power!” Read books to gain information about what you need to know. Read for pleasure. Make a commitment to read one or more chapters per day in personal or professional development. Even when you read for pleasure, it increases your vocabulary, your creativity and imagination and gives your something to chat about at the next social gathering.
Give yourself a break and be okay being you.
Your feelings about yourself are probably the most important feelings you can have. If you do not love yourself, then who will? Be proud of who you are and what you. Talk yourself up to yourself.
Self-esteem is directly influenced by the negative and positive thoughts you hear. These may be thoughts heard in your environment as well as thoughts in your own mind. Your self-talk! This is extremely Powerful! What are YOU thinking about yourself everyday?
“How come everyone else can do this, except me?”
“I’m so grateful to be involved in this project!”
…it does make a difference!
Then begin to Focus on your strengths
Be thankful for these and capitalize on them. For example one of my strengths is speaking. Once when I was young I was told that my mouth was going to get in trouble. There was a time when I was afraid to speak up. I even developed a stutter. Now that I’m older, I’ve made that strength work for me. My voice and my ability to speak to anyone is now my business!
Try building on your strengths by writing down in a journal all those traits you like about yourself. If this feels too hard to you, ask someone else what is it they like about you as a person or what they think you are good at. When you have your list, focus on them and forget your weaknesses!
Start to remind yourself and acknowledge your success daily.
Go ahead! Think about when you felt successful last year, last week or yesterday! Thinking about your past successes makes you a stronger person, better able to handle and cope with today’s challenges.
What’s going to be better than to say to yourself, “I can do this, I’ve done it before!” Aah! Now That’s confidence! On the heels of this is the daily celebration of your successes, no matter how small or how insignificant YOU think they are. Observe and celebrate them!
I do this every night in my what went right journal or with a dry erase marker on my bathroom mirror. and also use this exercise with my clients. Either use a journal or simply tell yourself the ten things that you praise and acknowledge yourself for. Don’t stop until you get to ten. You can say, Dee I’m so proud that you….
Visualize your future success
What could be more exciting than seeing in your mind how it feels to have succeeded? Did you know that athletes use this all the time? Especially those high jumpers! Swimmers, gymnast and ice skaters.
Successful people use visualization regularly. This is because they know that our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something imagined. Creating a detailed mental picture increases the likelihood of success, and boosts your self confidence.
They are many ways to do this. For example if you are going for a job interview, you can write down how it will feel to answer all the interviewer questions easily and effortlessly. Or you can go into a peaceful place, close your eyes and truly visualize yourself getting that job!
Now it time if you haven’t already to Get rid off the ‘nay-Sayers’
Your environment has a great effect on the confidence that you, as an individual, displays. Environment here could be family, friends, political or any other strong influence. Surround yourself with people that love and support you. Those people, who tend to criticize and constantly put you down, simply ignore them. Join supportive groups online. Get a coach who really listens to you, understands you and helps you build confidence in yourself.
And finally, Develop an attitude of excellence. Give of your best at all times. Be cheerful and happy. Shock everyone with your attitude of confidence! In this way, no one can declare that you do not have self-confidence, not even yourself. people with a high degree of self-confidence are normally more likely to be successful – than those who work in a less confident manner. So what are you going to radiate?