The Experience of Compassion
In my practice as a certified hypnotherapist and personal empowerment coach, I teach the forgiveness formula which is first, understanding the person, the situation, and their highest intention. Then comes forgiveness by separating the behavior from the true spirit of the person. After forgiveness is compassion, which requires feeling within yourself what a burden it is to suffer so much that you can hurt someone else. Finally comes love - the true essence of who we are.
Sometimes during a hypnosis session, the forgiveness process is delayed because the client doesn’t want to let go. They don’t understand that forgiveness is freedom and that personal freedom is more beautiful than any belief in justified revenge or wishes of punishment for the offender. Getting the client to feel compassion for the offender is difficult when they can’t forgive.
What I’ve learned from my personal journey is that I really truly forgave when I felt compassion for the person who offended me by going through a similar hardship. Now I didn’t lash out and hurt others as the offender in my life did, however I realized that I was living one of the same experiences they had had. Things that I thought were trivial and over dramatized by this person were suddenly important and significant to me when I was going through them. I remember looking at myself in the mirror and the image of this person popped in my head. The vision was so strong that I got emotional. I realized that we were connected. I was that person at that moment. This vision happened a